Only Dreaming

I have been devouring another recovery blogsite, Daily Reprieve.  The author and I seem to have much in common; former military service, multiple trips through the steps, alternative lifestyles (former, in my case, but the experience is ingrained.)  He posted this on September 2, 2009.

I finished my 4th and 5th steps this weekend.  I also accomplished the 6th and 7th steps.  Now to the amends list for 8 and 9, to face my regretments.

The stranglehold that my fears had on me, particularly with the military, have been amazingly removed and replaced with a resolute serenity to reconnect in the way I finish my service to this country.  Is this for real?  Or have I just hyped myself up somehow?  I don’t think so.  This does not feel like the manic-depressive roller coaster ride.  I could be wrong, but I don’t think so.  Something is doing for me what I could not do for myself.

I must invest this relief in the lives of others, or it will vanish from my own.  I know this.  I am grateful today.

By the way, on Sunday, I dropped off that resentment marble I spoke of in the previous entry.

My reply:

I had dreams about the military long after I believed I had let got of my “regretments”. Was I fooling myself that I had let go of them? Perhaps. I have never held to the belief that dreams hold some secret key to our psyche, but I do feel free today of the emotional bonds that kept I myself in over my military service. I have not had one of ~those~ dreams in some time, and it has been even longer since one of the once ubiquitous high school dreams found their way into my sleep. Regret, I think, is a wasted emotion, and yet I have squandered a great deal of emotional energy grieving past actions. Having come into AA an atheist, I still have little concern for how it all began or what will happen when I am gone, but “What if?” still has a tendency to preoccupy my monkey mind.

My fears no longer have the ’stranglehold’ on me that they once had, they no longer motivate me, but they are ever-present. I must hold constant vigil. Replacing them with faith takes constant practice. Will this ever become second nature?


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s